Pornography and Sexual Addictions

Pornography and Sexual Addictions

If you are looking for help for pornography or sexual addiction you have come to the right place. At Boise Counseling Center we have a program that will provide wisdom, tools, and guidance to help you.

Do I have a problem?

Many people search the web for help because they want to know if they have a problem with pornography. Is it wrong?  How much is too much?  What if I am only hurting myself? If you are looking for an honest assessment we recommend the Sexual Addiction Screening Test. This assessment is reliable and free.

Does my spouse/partner have a problem?

It is common for spouses to be concerned about how much their partner looks at or uses pornography. Learning that your partner is looking at pornography or acting out sexually outside of the relationship can be heartbreaking and terrifying.  People ask themselves questions like “what do I do now?  Do we stay together?  I love my partner and want to be with them, but now I don’t know how to be with them.” Feelings like anxiety, anger, fear, sadness, betrayal, compassion, love, withdrawal, and confusion can be overwhelming. Finding out that your spouse/partner cheated or had an affair is traumatizing.

What is addiction?

Addiction is using a substance (alcohol, narcotics, etc) or a process (gambling, sex, etc) to escape from reality. Why would someone want to escape from reality?  Reality can be very painful.  It involves feelings like anger, sadness, fear, shame, grief, and pain that can be difficult to deal with.  Many of us are never taught how to properly deal with our emotions.  Instead, we are taught to bottle them up until we explode or escape from them by doing things like drinking, doing drugs, having sex, gambling, shopping, exercising, working or looking at pornography.  We know we have a problem with addiction when what we do hurts a major area of our life such as our relationships, our family, our job, our health, or our money.

How Does Addiction Work?

Addictions occur in a pattern.   At first something triggers our brain to want to escape from reality, then we become pre-occupied with how we will act out, we act out, and then we deal with the feelings that come afterward.  For more information click here to read about the addiction cycle.